since u got 40 def, use proselyte or initiate.
armor : monks < initiate < proselyte
amulet : str < glory < fury
weapon : d scim < whip
shield : defender < holy book(pray points are critical in there)
boots : climbing < rune < dragon
helmet : berserker < neitzinot
ring( well since updates idk really, there are new rings and sht): warriors ring < berserker ring
gloves : mithril gloves < combat bracelet < regen bracelet < barrows gloves
additional information: btw, these are all items that are suitable or close to your stats, i didnt start recommending dh axe and dh armor since u dont have reqs to wear em, but for other items like whip u can always get att up or def, not sure what staker ure making.
i hope that answers the questions on what gear should you bring.