RoomScape Posted February 16, 2014 Share Posted February 16, 2014 The same way hair grows: gradually and involuntarily.That comparison is way off. You can come to love someone after spending ikr with them and growing fond of them. Although it's not immediate, you tend to be with them more and more as time passes by. This is because you're getting used to the person and choose to be with them. If you can't control it then it would be set one way or another. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Botre Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) That comparison is way off. You can come to love someone after spending ikr with them and growing fond of them. Although it's not immediate, you tend to be with them more and more as time passes by. This is because you're getting used to the person and choose to be with them. If you can't control it then it would be set one way or another. My point was that the process of love turning into hate or vice versa isn't something you have control over. The same way your hair grows without you having to tell it to grow. You can control whether or not to spend time with someone, but you can't control the way you feel about that time you spent with that person (you can actually, it's called lying to yourself). To spend time with someone is a conscious choice, to enjoy (or not) the time you spent on the other hand isn't. Most things we like are acquired tastes, just because you don't like something the first time doesn't mean you never will. But in order to acquire a taste, just saying "I like this" isn't enough. Edited February 17, 2014 by Botrepreneur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoomScape Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 My point was that the process of love turning into hate or vice versa isn't something you have control over. The same way your hair grows without you having to tell it to grow. You can control whether or not to spend time with someone, but you can't control the way you feel about that time you spent with that person (you can actually, it's called lying to yourself). To spend time with someone is a conscious choice, to enjoy (or not) the time you spent on the other hand isn't. Most things we like are acquired tastes, just because you don't like something the first time doesn't mean you never will. But in order to acquire a taste, just saying "I like this" isn't enough. You're in control of your emotions just like you're in control of your thoughts and actions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jin Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 You don't choose your sexual orientation. It's like how you're born either a boy or a girl; however you can choose to ignore and live your life by marrying the opposite gender, go have kids and ride a unicorn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Botre Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 You're in control of your emotions just like you're in control of your thoughts and actions. Do you consciously choose to fall in love? Do you consciously choose to be scared? Do you consciously choose to be jealous? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swaq Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 For example, not every you think is attractive might be thought attractive by others. I think it depends on how your mind is developed and what your heart sees in someone. As for being "bi" I think it has to do a lot about who you feel most comfortable and loved with. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockyfan Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 I totally agree with Official and repreneur. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoomScape Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 Do you consciously choose to fall in love? Do you consciously choose to be scared? Do you consciously choose to be jealous? No, but you can choose who to love, what to be scared of and who to envy. Initially, it's a reaction. Ultimately, it's a decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenGates Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 Do you consciously choose to fall in love? Do you consciously choose to be scared? Do you consciously choose to be jealous? Yes you choose to fall in love, yes you choose to be scared or ignore/close your eyes (lel), and you choose to be jealous. Arrogance is an amazing thing btw. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoomScape Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 Yes you choose to fall in love, yes you choose to be scared or ignore/close your eyes (lel), and you choose to be jealous. Arrogance is an amazing thing btw. I think it's more ignorance than arrogance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swaq Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 I think it's more ignorance than arrogance. Yep, arrogance and ignorance are 2 totally different things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Botre Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 (edited) So since you guys are 100% in control of your emotions I guess you must never be sad since all you have to do is to press the "happy button"? Edited February 17, 2014 by Botrepreneur Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swaq Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 So since you guys are 100% in control of your emotions I guess you must never be sad since all you have to do is to press the "happy button"? I think you can't completly control your emotions but the emotions can control themselves depending on what kind of environment you grew up around and many more factors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoldenGates Posted February 17, 2014 Share Posted February 17, 2014 I think it's more ignorance than arrogance. I could care less. ^ Let's see how many people get bothered by that. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swaq Posted February 17, 2014 Author Share Posted February 17, 2014 I could care less. ^ Let's see how many people get bothered by that. lol I see a combination of arrogance and ignorance in that 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
