Hello guys. I believe I have a problem. No matter what I do I can't stop dwelling on the past...

 

 

When I was 12, my mom forced me to move from Florida to Georgia because of her boyfriend. I had to leave behind my home, friends, my first girlfriend, and even the rest of my family (uncle, aunt, grandmother, etc.). I was happy in Florida and moving away absolutely broke my heart. I had to make new friends, and adapt to a whole new environment. That was 7 years ago when I was 12. Every year since then I get these things that happen where for weeks at a time I wonder how my life would have been if I had stayed in Florida where I belong. I lost touch with most of my old friends, but the ones I still have on Facebook, I tend to creep over and look through some old pictures to warm my heart. I also visit Florida at least once a year, but I never get to go back to my hometown where all my nostalgic memories are kept. I feel like this isn't normal because when I am dwelling on the past I am not living in the present. I hate it but at the same time I love it. I wouldn't know where else to get some other opinions on things like this but here. Feel free to hit me with the truth guys. I can't keep doing this forever.

I understand you bro, but 7 years is too long living in the past.. I don't say that you should burrie those memories, but try to think more positive about it. You had that time and now it's time to make fresh new start. You can be what ever you like, you make the choices but first you have to start living in the moment.. get those new best friends and girlfriend (or if you have already, try to make em closer for you).. my advice is also to chat with your old friends and ask how they are doing and maybe you could see them next time you go to Florida? Gl with your future!

Is your problem limiting your expectations on life?

Is your problem limiting your expectations on life?

Not exactly. I just feel like I can't experience what is happening now to the fullest when I am constantly thinking about the past.

Also, thank you for the first response. I guess 7 years went by before I knew it. Haha. And I will try and plan a visit next time I'm down there.

The following is an excerpt from my writing "Some regards of this weathered man...":

 

"Being but a mere particle of what is the world is abstaining in the least,

but does not withhold you from what you could do around you.

 

Because our lives are full of letdowns, we search for something to hold onto.  

In this world with endless possibilities we are vulnerable to acquire such false hope.

We try to see/feel farther than need be, thus blinding ourselves to what we NEED to see/feel.

Our expectations lead to our downfalls.

While most are in such contempt about the way our life "should" be lived, they are blinded to the simplistic nature.

The world works as it should, without the need for us to motivate it.

 

Life is relative to the ideal river, its flow is determined by nature.

But the swift current is unpredictable and unknown.

Be swept away, pulled under, or stand still.

Your freedom to choose could be your demise or your ascension.

 

Your life is almost solely based on how/what you think and feel.

Your thoughts, memories, and feelings may be positive OR negative.

 

In our lives we face millions of obstacles daily, no matter what we do.

Needing to achieve Hurdles, Fences, Brick walls, Armies, and even a small town every now and again.

Though learn quickly there is no need to exert thyself, nor a need to slow.

Discover your subtle pace, and realize it ain't meant to be a race.

In all of our cases, there is no wall/area too big for us to conquer.

 

Only YOU can turn YOUR car around.

We wonder all day what could have been if we were to turn back time.

Is it because we think something that didn't happen could have?

Is it because we cling to the belief that if we changed our past the outcome would have differed in a more positive manner?

Truthfully we are scared to accept the inevitable in order to move on and work for our futures.

Behold thyself and induce an improvement in thy moral/morale, communication, and ignorance."

 

"Give everything a chance, you'll never know what you could be missing if you don't.

You'll also never know how much you've already missed.

Fear not what you've missed is awaiting you down the road.

There is a reason for everything that happens, that doesn't mean it cannot be a bad thing.

 

Time is irretrievable, you will never get a second back.

Thus making time THE GREATEST PAYMENT of all.

You create your own lines, just be sure to follow them.

Hypocrisy can only lead to the downfall of loyalty, respect, and wisdom.

 

Depression can and will get the best of you, for the remainder of your life even.

It's what you've learnt through it that guides you to adapting to the necessary.

Everyones day shall come where they see that it is thy own self who has set the difficulty.

After you're reconciled you may believe things could have been learnt easier, but grip onto reality and see that is a false hope.

 

If life is a pathway, then one footstep in another direction changes the course entirely.

Thus meaning you will NEVER be on the same path, being that is a true statement, regardless of what you may think.

 

Though free will can be guided. Don't expect it to be, and open thy eyes.

Be affable to thy family, don't be ignorant and restrict your "family" to blood relations.

 

 

One thing commonly forgot is the things YOU know.

Quit disregarding the things YOU know and what can be achieved with your knowledge.

 

Mind you every word portrayed to you, including now, is a reference of a reference of a reference X infinite. In your head there lies a separate set of references for each individual word or word-part you've read thus far. Meaning the more words you must reference,... with possibly more false meanings (being that you are not receiving my personal message), the more misconstrued the inner message becomes.

 

With all that said, everything you hear changes into your OWN at the point of your own "comprehension", of the spoken or written word.

 

We all look at today like it is the ending, Rationally this is just the beginning.

Hold your breast out as if possessing brawn, no-one said this was going to be easy.

 

 

At birth we are given predominance, within condescension we break it down slowly as our morale does.

It can also be built upon, do not lose it entirely and savor every last bit."
 

©Kyle Raymond 2009

Edited January 14, 201412 yr by Quester

really? like i would be happy if i moved to a different place met new people and my real friends would still visit me and i would visit them tbh 

Hello guys. I believe I have a problem. No matter what I do I can't stop dwelling on the past...

 

 

When I was 12, my mom forced me to move from Florida to Georgia because of her boyfriend. I had to leave behind my home, friends, my first girlfriend, and even the rest of my family (uncle, aunt, grandmother, etc.). I was happy in Florida and moving away absolutely broke my heart. I had to make new friends, and adapt to a whole new environment. That was 7 years ago when I was 12. Every year since then I get these things that happen where for weeks at a time I wonder how my life would have been if I had stayed in Florida where I belong. I lost touch with most of my old friends, but the ones I still have on Facebook, I tend to creep over and look through some old pictures to warm my heart. I also visit Florida at least once a year, but I never get to go back to my hometown where all my nostalgic memories are kept. I feel like this isn't normal because when I am dwelling on the past I am not living in the present. I hate it but at the same time I love it. I wouldn't know where else to get some other opinions on things like this but here. Feel free to hit me with the truth guys. I can't keep doing this forever.

 

 

really? like i would be happy if i moved to a different place met new people and my real friends would still visit me and i would visit them tbh 

Did you not read the bolded message above?

Edited January 14, 201412 yr by Quester

Well do you have new friends now? 

See? You have always wondered what will your life be if you haven't moved but you haven't thought about the future

You could probably meet the woman of your life in Georgia or something important that happens that wouldn't have happened in Florida..

Dwelling on the past can be a good way to remember your friends etc but doing it so often will just affect your current life and your future since you're so sure that it would be better to have stayed in Florida

Best advice I can tell you is to move on, anyone back in your home town most likely don't care about you or aren't going to visit you if they haven't even attempted to contact you yet, as harsh as it sounds.

I still keep in touch with a few of my old friends. Problem is that when I visit I never drive so I don't exactly get to decide where we go. Also, my old town was a relatively poor area so my friends can't afford a car yet.