So the guy shooting at me that doesn't want to be there but has no choice is somehow a civilian? Also the guy flying the troop transport plane right over my head that's about to deliver troops that will try to kill me is a civilian that shouldn't be shot down?
War isn't pretty my friend. People die. A soldier is no different than any other person that works a 9-5. A lot, if not the majority, of people in the military are there because it's a good job as @Asap Ferg will do or because they were forced to by the state (think draft). War IS a game of battleships with human life. The generals deploying thousands to an area isn't thinking about each soldiers wants, desires, and dreams. No, he is thinking I need to have 1000 killing machines in this area in order to accomplish this goal. He knows some or even many will die, but that's what war is. Time to wake up from your little fairy tale.