Ok me and my girl dated for 2 years and i love her to death, this month we've been off and on and we broke up a week ago she got drunk with her girlfriends and went to a party and did something with a guy, not sex so i'm guessing foreplay or something but would you forgive her? if you were in my situation? I know she feels terrible and she's disgusted at her-self and she loves me for then anything but I just feel backstabbed and betrayed. So please tell me, would you?

Ok me and my girl dated for 2 years and i love her to death, this month we've been off and on and we broke up a week ago she got drunk with her girlfriends and went to a party and did something with a guy, not sex so i'm guessing foreplay or something but would you forgive her? if you were in my situation? I know she feels terrible and she's disgusted at her-self and she loves me for then anything but I just feel backstabbed and betrayed. So please tell me, would you?

So you broke up with her after 2 years for her partying.

No sex occurred yet you're mad?

I'm not understanding how you'd throw 2 years away over something that little.

I'd forgive her, especially if you love her to death as you state and she is sincerely apologetic and not going to do it again.

If you do forgive her and she does it again, then I would move on. Give her another chance unless something like this has already happened.

Edited June 2, 201312 yr by Speakmore

Forgive , forget , and move on.

I never said she partied before. She went and hung out with her terrible girl friends and they got her drunk. and then she went to a party and lost all self control i guess. It's never happened before

if your that in love with her stay i guess

otherwise just leave.

 

But honestly, if you guys broke up and then she did shit with a guy what can you even be mad about.

Its just her doing what she wants to do, so look at that and if your mad about it... The answer should be obvious.

 

Well this has all the characteristics of a mistake...

 

You both broke up, things got emotional, she got drunk and done something she regrets. It happens mate.

 

Now, If she was to have an ongoing affair with someone and continued to see him over a course of time whilst still being in a relationship with you, then things would be different and i'd be telling you to pack your bags and leave. You seem really attached to her, don't do anything stupid yet. just let time take its course.

 

If you need any advice, just send me a private message mate.

Forgive , forget , and move on.

Please.

You can only do that so much, have you ever been "back stabbed" or "cheated on."

This case doesn't sound severe but you act like it's nothing.

"Amy just f***ed my best friend.

You did nothing wrong, thanks for having sex with him.

Forget it happened, nothing happened, you know. Good as new!"

Basically what you said.

I never said she partied before. She went and hung out with her terrible girl friends and they got her drunk. and then she went to a party and lost all self control i guess. It's never happened before

Never happened before and nothing much happened, and you're throwing away 2 years for a girl you would die for. Things aren't adding up pal.

Not trying to sound harsh, I just don't understand the reason you're asking.

In the end it is your decision but you basically said she fooled around with another guy but didn't cross the line, am I right?

Edited June 2, 201312 yr by Speakmore

I want to forgive her. I just don't want to feel taken advantage of. I just don't see how she could do that. why does alcohol make you a different person.

Please.
You can only do that so much, have you ever been "back stabbed" or "cheated on."
This case doesn't sound severe but you act like it's nothing.

"Amy just f***ed my best friend.
You did nothing wrong, thanks for having sex with him.
Forget it happened, nothing happened, you know. Good as new!"
Basically what you said.


Never happened before and nothing much happened, and you're throwing away 2 years for a girl you would die for. Things aren't adding up pal.

I never said i was throwing it away, I wanted peoples opinions on if i should forgive but never forget.

I want to forgive her. I just don't want to feel taken advantage of. I just don't see how she could do that. why does alcohol make you a different person.

I never said i was throwing it away, I wanted peoples opinions on if i should forgive but never forget.

Well if you never forget then that'd be on you.

I think, in fact advise you give her another shot, of course considering she still wants you, and forgive.

You can't dwell on the past, especially if it wasn't that big of a deal. If you've talked to her and said, "Hey I feel taken advantage of, could you please never do this again?" Or something along those lines, and she's stated and sincerely meant she was sorry, then forgive her.

If she isn't worth it, then you know the drill.

Well if you never forget then that'd be on you.

I think, in fact advise you give her another shot, of course considering she still wants you, and forgive.

You can't dwell on the past, especially if it wasn't that big of a deal. If you've talked to her and said, "Hey I feel taken advantage of, could you please never do this again?" Or something along those lines, and she's stated and sincerely meant she was sorry, then forgive her.

If she isn't worth it, then you know the drill.

Thanks alot for your opinion! I will forgive her, if she still wants to be with me I will give her another chance, if she doesn't then i'll have to suck it up and move on.

Thanks alot for your opinion! I will forgive her, if she still wants to be with me I will give her another chance, if she doesn't then i'll have to suck it up and move on.

Well if she doesn't then she should have addressed it differently instead of cheating on you.

I wish you luck however though.

You're welcome.

It's hard to forgive sometimes if you feel taken advantage of, I know. But it happens (sadly a lot in this day and age.) but if all is true as you've stated, then it's not the biggest deal. I mean it could be worse. If she has to regain your trust, then that is and should be understandable. But to leave her over that is meh, unless of course yours/her feelings have changed for each other.

Well if she doesn't then she should have addressed it differently instead of cheating on you.

I wish you luck however though.

You're welcome.

It's hard to forgive sometimes if you feel taken advantage of, I know. But it happens (sadly a lot in this day and age.) but if all is true as you've stated, then it's not the biggest deal. I mean it could be worse. If she has to regain your trust, then that is and should be understandable. But to leave her over that is meh, unless of course yours/her feelings have changed for each other.

 

We were broken up at the time so it technically wasn't cheating. Just felt destroyed by the backstabbing and disgust.

We were broken up at the time so it technically wasn't cheating. Just felt destroyed by the backstabbing and disgust.

Oh lol... If you weren't even together than I see nothing wrong with what she did actually.

You shouldn't even be mad then. If she isn't committed to you, what's the issue?

You can't say she is because you aren't dating.

I guess you should be lucky they didn't have sex, that is if you guys are getting back together.

If you love someone as much as this, you see what she did wrong. Maybe not from your perspective but from mine that's a nono. And at this point it's mainly up to her.

If you love someone as much as this, you see what she did wrong. Maybe not from your perspective but from mine that's a nono. And at this point it's mainly up to her.

Incorrect. I loved my girlfriend VERY much, she moved (we're 16) and I had to break up with her.

We still talk and love eachother, but if she decides to get with someone else, not only can I not do anything about it, I won't/can't get mad because technically she is no longer mine.

To you it could be a "nono" but she isn't tied to you, nor is she yours. Now that I know she wasn't with you, I can state that she did nothing wrong. Honestly you can't get mad at her for hooking up with someone else if you aren't dating.

Just because you love someone doesn't mean you own/control them, even if you've dated them before.

Sorry I think you're at wrong for getting mad here.

If you could justify to me what she did wrong and why it was wrong, I'd reconsider (not that my opinion matters in the end) but I see nothing wrong.

Edited June 2, 201312 yr by Speakmore